Sunday, 27 November 2016

Things now.


I hate when I have to fake a smile. But, I can't tolerate if I have to be fake with people. I can't be a monster to other people life. I can't let my past take over for my future. I feel like I am a book where you put down and I'm the last poem you will never read again. Some days I still trying to find myself while being lost, some nights clinging onto the longest parts of breaking. Silence is my best friend, till I found a new friends. People comes and go, and here I am, I meet a new people. I'm not expecting them to stay, if they want to leave, I'm okay. I will stand here, let people come pass by me. Because I know nothing last forever. You're memory that maybe I'll soon to forget. Because lately, I start to forget about everything, what kind of food you like to eat, what your fav color, flavor of ice cream that you like, what is your most fav cake, everything. I seem to forgot. Before this, I use to write to remmeber everything about you, but lately I've been witing to forget about you.

ALL THE MEMORIES ABOUT HER STARTED FADING.

Saturday, 26 November 2016

move on.

I have spent the last 5 years holding onto the hope of a relationship with someone who does not love nor accept herself and therefore could not love and accept me. But I chose to stay even after every warning sign, every fight, and every false promise of a future together. I stayed because I loved her with all of my being. It took me 5 years, many conversations with friends and family, and lots of tears to finally say goodbye to the person I thought was the love of my life. But letting go was my only choice and this is how I knew.

I felt like I couldn’t breathe. There were days where I could not catch my breath when all of my memories of her surfaced, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I was angry and sad, and consumed with emotion so much so that it felt as if the wind was knocked out of me. I’d think to myself,  Is this what a mental breakdown feels like? I said to myself, “How did we get here? When did it get this bad?” I physically was responding to my emotions and they were interfering with my everyday life. I said things to hurt her because I was so heartbroken and I did not know how to cope with that pain. The only thing I accomplished by lashing out was hurting someone I loved deeply and immediately having self hatred for being so cruel. How do we manage to hurt the ones we love the most in the most vicious way? Our conversations were no longer productive, we were in a constant state of arguing.

I was hurting the people I loved the most. I have some of the most incredible friends in my life but after nearly 5 years of repeat conversations about the need to let go and move on, and my consistency for choosing to ignore their wise words, it took a toll on my relationships. I chose to give this person a chance over and over when clearly all she was doing was hurting me and treating me with little respect. My friends love me, they remind me of that daily. My friends could only tell me so many times that I needed to walk away before they themselves needed to take a step back to protect themselves. Many of them have admitted how hard it was to watch me put myself in a position to be hurt over and over again. But it was a lesson only I could learn. I began to feel worthless and felt lost. It feels like I lost who I was a long time ago. When I started loving her, she consumed me. Everything about my life revolved about this one relationship, how could I make it work, how could I change myself to fit the mold she had created for me, how could I continue to wait even after waiting for two years. It dawned on me one day that the things people love about me most, my compassion, my quirkiness, and my intense passion, she disliked about me the most.

I felt myself changing constantly to fit who I thought she wanted me to be. But it never seemed good enough. I would dress differently, communicate differently, over analyze every conversation, the list goes on and on. By doing this, I lost myself and lost my self-worth. I lost the parts of me that were spontaneous and outgoing, those being replaced by anxiety and fear. But most of all, I lost any self-value and self-worth I had. She didn’t accept who she was and kept our relationship a secret from every single person in her life. By denying that our relationship existed, that morphed into me believing I was not valued enough for her to choose me. I felt unworthy of her and her time; I never was a priority, I was always the second option. I started to hate myself and constantly questioned the purpose of my existence. It took 5 years and counting to realize that walking away was my only choice. It took losing friendships, losing self-control, and losing self-worth to walk away. But I am worthy. I do matter. And one day, I will be able to breathe again.

When I realize that I'm worth it, when I have the courage to walk away, only that I realize how much wider the world is. I realize that there's someone else for me, waiting for me. Waiting for my kindness and compassion, someone out there who is just been waiting for me to love myself. 

Saturday, 5 November 2016

Menghukum.

"Kita bukan Tuhan untuk menghukum orang lain.

Belum tentu yang nampak buruk akan mendapat pengakhiran yang buruk.
Dan kita sendiri yang belum pasti pengakhiran kita.
Lebih baik diamkan saja diri dari memburukkan orang lain.
Sebab kita sendiri tak pasti tempat kita dimana.

Jom lihat diri sendiri depan cermin."

Pesan dillazainal pada dirinya.

Semoga Allah merahmati kita semua, kan sayang ?

Ini salah.

Meletakkan orang yang salah pada tempat yang salah, ini salah.

Semoga rasa ini cepat cepat hilang sebelum menular jauh ke lembah zina.

Thursday, 3 November 2016

Totally introverted.

I didn't talk. I didn't explain. All I gave you was nothing. It's not that I don't care. I've been losing people that I hold dear. And I'm sorry I stopped replying. I can't explain. I just feel. I feel it. And what's sad is that this message isn't just for one, but for the many whom I stopped responding to. Even when I want to. Replies overwhelm me, sometimes to the point of drowning. I'm painfully introverted like that.
I'm sorry I stopped replying.

Ps: I hope this gets to your newsfeed. And if you ever read this. Whenever I don't reply, it doesn't mean I care for you less. If you're hurt, sorry.

People comes and go.

Learn to trust of what I should not trust. People said, love all but trust few. That is why I'm trying to do. Learn to trust some people even if it's only few. Alhamdulillah, thank you Allah for keep sending me a new friends. I'm not going to put any high expectation on them, but I feel so grateful to have them as my friends. Their presence give me some more energy and the reasons for me to smile. Actually, Allah give everything. It's only me who didn't notice form the first. I'm the one who close the door, wait for someone and expect them to come to knock the door while myself never open and give a chance ? I've been broken, why should I break another heart ? In every friendship or whatever of relationship that I've, my hope is only that we can get over along this journey. If we have to separate with our own way because of something that we can't avoid. Then, let's meet each other in the future at the place where is all people are not going to break each other. Which is, Jannah. If I can tell them, I want to give a really special thanks to them for coming. If they are going to leave, I'll take that as a normal thing to happen. Because, the nature of life. People comes and go.